Hi everyone, happy Thursday! I hope your week is going well. I was able to get to yoga class for the 1st time in several weeks and that always makes me happy. 🙂
Last week I was at dinner with my sister, uncle, and nieces.During the duration of our dinner discussion my nieces were good-naturedly teasing me about my lack of forwardness in my interactions with men that I might be interested in getting to know better. Actually, it was a very humorous discussion but it really got me to thinking about my personality.
Truth: not only am I reserved in certain situations, I have absolutely no idea how to flirt. None whatsoever. People have tried to help me with this aspect of my personality to no avail. I vividly remember my college roommate trying to help me. ( She could always get the boys and definitely had “the look”.) ” Look at the guy you like, smile and look away. Then, look again but hold your gaze longer.” She would advise. I was way too shy for any of that. I still am. I may look and smile but then I have to look away. There is no way I am going to get the second longer gaze in there. Plus, you know I will be blushing like crazy. Then there is the flirtatious talk. I never know what to make of it. Are they serious or are they kidding? Or, are they seriously kidding? It must be a genetic defect. A recessive anti-flirt gene.
Trying to take my niece’s loving advice to be more assertive, I did think deeply about whether or not to be more flirtations and outgoing around men. Bottom line, it’s not going to happen. It would be kind of fun to have a whole new persona that included a flirtatious nature but that is just not me. I think I am pretty cool with all my eccentricities. One of the most enduring of which is not knowing how to flirt.
As always, I would love to hear from you. Feel free to share your best flirting stories.:)
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Until next time,
With flirting comes a lot of rejection.
So. . .if you are challenged with flirting – cut to the chase and head straight for rejection. You should find it freeing.
For example, you see an eligible man. Walk up, introduce yourself and ask him a question. When he is done with his answer, comment on his response with a short story of your own. EXPECT that he is going to walk away and LOOK FORWARD to it. Because how you respond to his rejection is how you learn to flirt.
So he walks away? That is what he is supposed to do. Now go flirt with another one. Expect that he will walk away also. This is nothing to worry about. Men do this. So when they do this, smile. It worked. You flirted, they walked away and all is well in the world.
And learn to tell jokes – or just be a little corny.Laugh at yourself.
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Thanks ! I never thought about how responding to rejection is part of learning how to flirt. 🙂
Just do it! 😉
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