Happy Thursday, everyone!
Recently a phenomenon that I had been subconsciously observing for years made I real impression on me, as if I was observing it for the first time.
Have you ever noticed when someone is dealing with a broken heart they often will suddenly change something in their lives. Sometimes it is somewhat drastic like changing careers or moving to a new town, but often the change is a little thing that makes a big difference in the life of that person.
The bookworm suddenly takes up running, the young housewife who has never traveled learns to speak Italian, or the handyman takes up photography. A pragmatic mind may say that a person needs to keep busy after a breakup so they are able to move on and not get caught up in self-pity. A more cynical person may say that it is a desperate attempt to either change more into the type of person the ex partner expected them to be or prove a point by becoming the exact opposite of what the ex partner demanded in the relationship. There may be truth in these points of view but I believe something else is often going on behind the sudden need to run or learn Italian besides keeping busy, trying to make a point, or impress someone who is never coming back.
I believe we are often attracted to people who represent a part of ourselves that is often undeveloped or even suppressed. When we meet these people we are immediately are attracted to them because we are seeing a part of ourselves that we would like to get to know better.As a result we become involved with people who are not necessarily the best match for a life partner but for a time give us what we need to help us grow more into the person we are meant to become.
We have all suffered a broken heart and survived. ( sometimes just barely) and it is to our benefit to come out of failed relationships with a better knowledge of ourselves and how to deal with life’s setbacks so that we can create the beautiful life that we all deserve.
So, harbor no malice towards people who are no longer a part of your life. Make peace with them in your heart and take the time to appreciate what they brought into your life and how it has now become a part of who your are. Bittersweet, yes, but look how much more amazing of a person you are now that you can run a 10k, speak Italian, and take a decent picture with your smart phone! 🙂
As always, I would love to hear from you!
Until next time,